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VAIRAGYA
a tamarind tree; do whatever we want with all the mutations that are possible today it will never become that. It is only our undue attachment or a possessive attitude towards that person who is entrusted to our care that makes us err here. It is only an example that I am trying to give apply it to every field. We will know, we will know on our own where is the moderation. The mother being attached to the son so much may ask him to eat four times a day because she suffers from undue attachment. If he is properly attached then he will politely say ‘no’. As was told the other day to say ‘No’ when we have got to say ‘No’ is Viveka and without learning that we are not going to learn Vairagya. Day to day problems are only this, we have to say, ‘yes, this is about it’ and there not only we have to say ‘no’ but we should also understand that we are also putting a restriction to that relationship. The other person who is trying to extend the relationship beyond a limit and to him we are trying to tell ‘no’, ‘this is the end of it’; the limit of elasticity ends there. It is the feeling sector where we have got to renounce. Once we know how to say ‘no’ in the feeling sector I think in
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