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previous lives as a monk or a nun, or just inherited them along with today's cultural mindset, they can be equally debilitating. It is time for these unconscious, outmoded restrictions to go. Oaths of obedience serve only those in charge of an institution. Under a guise it becomes the worst form of tyranny, the very opposite of freedom. I am aware of few persons who took oath with their Master and chose falsehood and have offended themselves with notions of guilt etc., It has always been easier to be in charge as the anointed leader of a group as long as no one is going to question our authority.
Chastity reduces emotional problems in monasteries. However, in otherwise happy marriages, the same sense of chastity creates problems. We need to release any deep, inner suspicions that we should be "chaste for life" before our partner wonders if we are distancing our self from them because we do not love them any more. If however we persist with these notions we will find our selves being chased for life time by others and no real spiritual sadhana will be possible. This problem of suspicion among the married persons is
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