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PATH OF LOVE
to be clearly appreciated that Personal spiritual growth is about transcending the ego and not weakening it. In reality Ego is similar to the structure of a fort that we have created to fend ourselves. Most of the time we live in this illusion fooling ourselves as if we are in safe zone. It is already too weak and afraid; that is why it is immaturely selfish and hateful. It should be treated like a child growing up, not rejected as imperfect. By trying to translate our ideals into action through this fragile fort we fail to achieve our best intentions.
But if we can make this structure serve the larger purposes of the good for all it can be made stronger and finally take it to a stage of Oneness with the Divine decree. The selfish ego trying to protect its fort always in a defensive manner when made to serve the purposes of the good of all, starts growing infinitesimally in the beginning and infinitely later. The self that is small and timid when grows up to serve the good of all, becomes stronger and mature. The stronger and more mature it is, the more transparent it becomes to the spiritual essence that lies behind the person. Such a transformed self or ego then becomes an instrument of Love. Then the Nara becomes Narayana.
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