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the capacity to excuse the other one. You must get kripanatva, you must get karpanya. Even if someone makes a mistake, forgive them saying it is ok. Then we get nischalatva comes. Then saranatva comes. People who say they have surrendered, only when these are there, comes surrender. Everybody says they have surrendered. Nothing wrong in aspiring but one should know these are the states. Otherwise, you will be indulging in vyarthaprasangam (wasteful talk), talking unnecessarily that you have surrendered to Master. Why this wasteful talk comes is it is a wasted time. You go on telling that you are surrendered to the master, trying to re-assure yourself that you have really surrendered. It is more of re-assurance, wasted time, talking unnecessarily.
The picture in the game of life depicts Vibheeshana seeking refuge with Lord Rama, a well-known example of surrender. The incident goes like this, when Rama and his army are camping on the other side of the sea, Vibheeshana tries to reason with Ravana and urges him to return Sita to Lord Rama. At this suggestion Ravana becomes furious and throws Vibheeshana out of Lanka.
Vibheeshana with four of his followers leaves everything
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