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VAIRAGYA
circumstances arise under which we feel forced to change that feeling, may be because the person is dead or the person feels somehow alienated, then we feeling resistance to change and start fighting. We have granted certain amount of permanency to that feeling to that particular thing or person; today it is not there and gone away and we find our roots shaken. In cases of people who give their daughters in marriage to somebody else, there is a feeling of separation, there it is the ‘feeling’ that is in troubles. They know that they have to part with; they also know that the person will not stay with them but they are not prepared to accept the feeling of separation, because the change in situation is something they are not prepared to accept. They have granted a permanency to that feeling of ‘father daughter’ relationship. The father daughter relationship expires the moment she is married is what our tradition has taught but it doesn’t happen, it did not happen in the past, perhaps it may not happen in the future. We were born in a particular place, we have moved out of that place, there is an attachment to that place in the beginning, there is a feeling, even when we
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