Page 195 - Bodhayanti Parasparam Vol 9

PATH OF LOVE
However when it goes wrong, and the relationship does not connect on all levels as we had hoped, it is deeply disappointing and we feel we have lost what could have been a perfect gift.
The main barrier for the expression of true Love is surprisingly our attachment. Attachment and love we think are near synonyms. But we should note that attachment to something or person really means the fear of losing it or the person. Fear distorts the truth. It is wise not to get attached too quickly and perhaps we should try to have no attachment except with the Master. We may really feel that we are better off on our own than in a mismatched relationship. However we learn in spirituality that it is much better off to be in a relationship based on true love with the Master than to be on our own. When we get attached to others without having the Master as the core we do get into situations that threaten the bonds of affection in attachments. Love to any person who appears to be not connected to the Master leads to hurt and needs to be healed. This type of situation has led many to renounce married life and somehow it has become a matter of admiration. While in fact Love is what is needed to heal, ironically love has become a barrier. The only way forward is to love the Master in all and
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