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2. There is a change in attitude at home from antipathy to apathy. This has reduced a lot of friction.
Good news and surely with your sincerity in sadhana the atmosphere in his house will be more harmonious.
3. My possessiveness of money became very apparent when part of family property had to be given away. After bed-time prayer it became clear and I could happily let go.
The attachment to property, spouse and children are very strong and it is good sign of Viveka that you could take things happily. May this increase further.
4. My shyness is debilitating. Leads to lot of thinking with no action. Also leads to a sense of separateness. Please give me your guidance.
Crowd is no company. Developing intimacy with Master demands aloofness which should not be confused with separateness. Neither shyness nor exposure is good and there are occasions when they shine best and they vary. Deliberation should not be confused with procrastination. Your statements are very general and I am not able to say more than this. But one thing for certain is that you are not shy as I understand from what you write.
5. My wife always nags about her not doing the sadhna properly due to health problems and having to manage household chores inspite of ill health. I want her to progress in sadhna.
Contentment is the crux of spirituality. Let your good wife practice as much as she can and trust in the Master for progress in the path. The problem of your wife is not any unique. Let us know that we are grhasta and have many duties and responsibilities to be discharged. If the women aspirants practice the routine suggested to them it is enough and Master will take care of the rest. By the by is the desire to progress quicker hers? Or Yours?
6. Now that my wife started going to a job, there is lot more work at home during evenings. When doing house work, there used to be a feeling that "I am doing a lot" and thoughts about how much my wife is doing etc. These thoughts used to come during meditations. Have been praticing to do the work as a duty and not think too much about it afterwards. This has significantly improved the meditations.